I don’t remember how I found Paige’s blog, but I do remember that as soon as I found out she was moving to NWA, I invited her to meet up for drinks. The first time we met, she was suffering from a cold, forgot her wallet in the car and had to run to get her i.d., and looked ready to curl up in bed with a cup of tea. But she was happy as could be to meet someone new, smiling and talking with me as if I was the most important thing in the world for that time.
It’s sad that it’s rare to find people who will happily give you their undivided attention but Paige is a girl that gives you hope that there are more people out there like her. I’m glad to call her a friend and I am so excited to shower her in love today with all the other ladies in her blogging life. MJ of Pars Caeli is hosting it so go drop by and see all the other bloggers share the Paige love!
While I’m not married and sure as heck don’t know a damn thing about making a marriage work, I want to pass on the best advice I ever got on making everyday matter in your relationship. My boyfriend and I have been doing it for some time now and it does make a difference in our daily life! It’s also one of the easiest things you can do everyday to make both of your lives better.
Every night, after the day is said and done and you’re in bed, together or apart, snuggled up and ready to fall asleep, reflect together for a moment on your days. No matter whether it was a day spent together or a day spent at your respective work-places, something good happened to you, even on the crappiest of days. It can be as monumental as you got that new job you were hoping for or as little as you felt good in your skin that day. Everything that adds to your life matters and rejoicing in it together helps you see the trees for the forest and strengthens your bond together by sharing what’s important in your day to day.
So every night, make a habit of telling each other the one good thing that happened to you today. The good days it’s hard to pick just one thing; the bad days it’s hard to pick anything at all. But always, there is something to rejoice in. Don’t belittle yourself if your one thing is small and insignificant in comparison to the terrible things that happened during the worst kinds of days. Don’t think “Wow, that’s sad that the best thing that happened to be today was that the milk wasn’t spoiled when I had cereal.” Think instead on the bad days that of all the things that could have gone wrong, this one thing went right and it was wonderful. And remember, it’s not a contest of who’s day had the better thing happen! It’s about celebrating the things that make you happy together.
My one good thing for today? I get to call you, dear Paige, a friend and celebrate you with lots of other wonderful ladies!